Chhild dating divorced man
As a single dad wading back into the dating pool, Daniel Ruyter was surprised how many women lost interest when he revealed, always in the first conversation, that he had a son."At first I took it personally," said the Orlando, Fla., information technology analyst, who was 32 when he divorced and got joint custody of his then 5-year-old son."I found it very arbitrary that before they got to know me, they had decided against me."But as Ruyter cycled through "close to 100" first dates and a few long-term girlfriends (a scheduling feat, considering half his week was devoted to his son), his romantic standards heightened in ways they may not have pre-fatherhood.
"I think sometimes the women I dated didn't realize that single dads still have parenting obligations that, for me, came first," said Ruyter, now 36, who maintains the blog "Memoirs of a Single Dad" (memoirsofasingledad.com) and recently self-published the book "Memoirs of a Dating Dad."Changing landscape As fathers grow more engaged in child rearing, and courts more willing to grant them custody, single dads increasingly are dating with kids in tow — in heart if not in hand.As April Masini, relationship expert at Ask April.com, sees it, a man who’s been through at least one marital flop will come to appreciate his current partner even more since he knows exactly how much he stands to lose.Masini says, “And they know quality now because what they had before, wasn’t. It’s much more about the effort that may now be involved between the sheets.Fran qualifies, “One divorce under a person's belt is a good credential for learning about relationships, including what works and what does not.Any more than one failed marriage may be a red flag of trouble in that person's personality structure and character.” One of the biggest gifts of a finalized divorce (besides a new lease on life) is the gift of appreciation.