Dating a best friend good or bad
Christi tells about a close friend who fell in love with the “perfect” guy: tall, athletic, good-looking and fun to be around.
He treated her well, but had little interest in furthering his relationship with God.
Not only did my best friend disappear, but I thought her boyfriend didn’t like me.
Outwardly I was happy for her, but inwardly I was miserable.” If your best friend is dating, and you’re not, is jealousy an issue?
“This man loves my best friend so much and, even better, he loves God with all of this heart, mind, and soul,” says Christi.
It became clear to me that her own spiritual growth was suffering greatly, and I made the choice to talk to her about it.” “The words were painful for me to say and for her to hear,” Christi remembers, “and I wondered about the future of our friendship as I gently spoke my observations and feelings.” For the next few days, her friend spent some time talking with God and examining her own heart and motives.It’s natural to want to have someone special in your life, and react with jealousy when it happens to others, not to you.This may be an opportunity to let your loving heavenly Father into those deep places of your heart, honestly praying through here-and-now areas of anguish, and trusting him for your future good.Obviously, abuse issues are a huge red flag and need to be dealt with directly.Or, sometimes the boyfriend or girlfriend may appear to be overly controlling, demanding, or demeaning.
“It’s frustrating when my friends date people who are not my choice for them in a million years,” says Sarah.