Dating advice for me
Looking back, this only made my dates uncomfortable and left me looking either weird or desperate.
When I had multiple dates lined up, I found myself very relaxed on each date.
We did have a nice time that evening and then proceeded to never speak to each other again.
Failure became a part of dating, neither good nor bad; just a part that has to be accepted. Better First Impressions This was a direct result of having less stress.
Using my original method for dating (one girl a month at best), my odds of meeting that special someone were very low and theoretically it would have taken a long time to meet her. The issue here is the length of time only identifies part of the problem as it assumes that the “match” won’t move on to something else: a new job that she wouldn’t have been taken had she been in a relationship, settling for someone just to not be alone, etc.
Early on I was always in a panic-mode: trying to make sure everything went perfect on every date, overly concerned about the happiness of my date, worried about the impression I was making and so on.
Dating in numbers allowed me to make decisions based on what I desired, not based on how lonely I was at that time.
It also helped me better define what I was looking for in my profile. Greater Comfort One great side-effect to dating so actively was that I became more comfortable with dating itself.
I moved from one date a month to one a week and eventually was going on up to two first-dates a week.
There were several side-effects to this, aside from a busier schedule, that make me now believe this is the best way to approach online dating: 1.
I was discovering which conversations worked better than others and was able to avoid bumps in the conversation all together.