Dating nude me kind
For the “not my fault” narrative to hold, when a man has a long day at work, if he’s tired, or sick, or whatever and doesn’t get turned on, it can’t be his be things he has agency over — things like, his own openness to trying new things, for example, and that’s threatening. Because when fat chicks turn men on (and they do) a man feels like a pervert for himself be attracted to a fat chick.
He feels like he has succumbed to his creepiness, or the “weakness” of his sexuality.
Dating a butch women who is shit that I never noticed before, especially when I bring up being sexually assaulted.
Because here’s the thing; when I was dating women, I still saw those images; they just didn’t bug me as much.
And then I was like, oh yeah — this is that feeling from back when I had boyfriends. Like I am not worthy of being loved because of how I look. I feel almost physically sub-human, as if any man who looks at my naked body without saying something cruel is doing me a kindness. When I was dating women, and when I was not dating, I didn’t really stress out about my appearance.
I haven’t had one in over 5 years, and I kind of assumed that those old weird insecure feelings I used to have were something I just matured out of. Apparently what happened is that I stopped dating dudes. Like, that any man who is with me is only settling because he can’t get what he really wants. Sometimes I looked good, sometimes I looked bad and I feel like I had a fairly objective sense of the whole thing. I was able to see, in an objective sense, that my hair was fine (strangely, better than normal) my skin was fine.
I was like “Creepy” is a word that comes up a lot when I’m having an honest discussion with men about their feelings on their sexualities.
In fact, it is so ubiquitous, I think you should just go ahead and assume most men feel like they are creepy for getting turned on, or probably felt that way at some point in their lives.
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