Dating tips for gay
Unless you want to be thrown into a haphazard mix of other lesbian newbies at a bi-monthly girl party at a massive nightclub, you have to to find out where the experienced lesbians gather. We don't like things that are too easily available, and the dating scene is no different.Our culture is like a secret designer sample sale advertised only to an exclusive group of people "in the know." (Oh, but once you get inside, you discover it was worth waiting on that pesky long lesbian line).We aren't like gay men who shamelessly advertise incessant fabulous gay parties all over the Internet.(Please, dear god, make me a gay man in my next life).A friend setup is always the best way to meet cool people.Also, other gays, gays at the office, gays in the family, gays at the gym, gays everywhere will come flying out of the woodwork.I could have entitled this post ‘Why people are so mean to each other’ because the reason is common across all sexualities.
Chances are you are insecure about your own ability to achieve your goals.
Maybe it was my aloofness that drew in the dudes (straight girls take note), but damn, dudes were easy like ~Sunday morning~.
All you have to do is bat a lash, act entirely disinterested, cold and bitchy, and boys will fall at your feet.
So here it is, kids: Zara's official dating tips for the newly out LEZ. And lesbians are so incestuous that we've all dated each other by now. There is always a lesbian art walk, or book club, or walk across the Brooklyn Bridge. I used to troll the straight bars when I was a new lez, and almost all the girls I thought were gay weren't. I just sat back and watched my straight girlfriends make out with fratty-looking boys, and I would just grow increasingly bitter and irritated and end up overdrinking and waking up depressed and hopeless and hungover. In the early days, bite the bullet and GO TO THE GAY BAR (before they shut down). But they have NO right to be offended by you hitting on them when in lesbian land.
I have pulled all these questions directly from messages that YOU guys have sent me in the past month. My number one tip in meeting like-minded girls is to seek out another lesbian to be your wingwoman. We're perpetually thirsty for fresh gay blood, so being new on the scene actually works in your favor. It's safe to assume the people at the gay bar are gay. Remember, the homo bar is your territory, and you should feel empowered on your turf. No one is going to know you're gay just by looking at you (everyone rocks short hair and flannel these days), so make sure everywhere you go, you slip in your sexual identity.
Some lesbians liked to be tight-lipped (no pun intended) about the gay underworld. I see it like this: It's hard enough to be gay in this cruel, cold, heteronormative world.