Rhodri marsden dating
I took 2002-2009 off, having met someone wonderful online, but now I’m occasionally doing the dating thing. I could come up with some fantastic description of a yacht scenario in the south of France or whatever, but I’d rather be sitting on the top deck of a London bus with someone who noticed something preposterous written on the side of a building at exactly the same moment as I did, said to me, “Did you see that,” heard me reply “yes,” and shared with me that moment of hysterical mirth. It’s boring sitting around at weekends otherwise, isn’t it? If it’s the right person, what you’re doing and where you’re doing it pales into insignificance, doesn’t it?We got in touch with the London-based Marsden, who also happens to be a writer (“Mainly for Tell us about that initial date, the one that set this off… It was still at the stage when doing internet dating was something you didn’t like to talk about; admitting that you went out in the evening to have drinks with someone you’d never met before was like telling people you had a contagious disease. Back then the etiquette wasn’t established — in fact, I’m not sure if etiquette is established even now, but we’ve developed ways of dealing with awkward situations — so you were kind of doomed to spend long, excruciating evenings with people you had precious little in common with. I’m terrible at small talk in any case; the dream is that you’ll hook up with someone you chat with effortlessly, isn’t it, but most of the time you’ll just end up asking people where they’re from, really tedious personal history questions. Anyway, I found myself asking this girl, who was from Wigan, “So, what’s Wigan like? What do you think about the bad date tweet responses you’ve gotten? I wasn’t surprised that people made me laugh — that happens all the time — but the sheer volume of responses was amazing. But you could tell that it was becoming a “thing,” because journalists were doing first-person pieces about it. The number of responses probably hit a thousand or so; the Storify currently holds just over 200 of the best ones. Rhodri Marsden is a writer and musician based in London.A columnist for The Independent for more than a decade, he writes features, books and opinion pieces about subjects as varied as bad dates, rude place names, USB cables, crumpets, perfume and anxiety.Have Yourself a Very British Christmas is a twelve-stage sleigh ride through the best, worst, strangest and funniest aspects of the Christmas holiday, with cultural icons saluted, national habits dissected and personal reminiscences from those who've eaten all the mince pies and lived to tell the tale.
A good date can be exhilarating: a shared joke, an improbable spark, long moments of gazing fondly into each other's eyes.