Let’s not fix the problem by adding a ban, equating all ‘men approaching women’ as inherently bad, and acting as though the only way we can expect a healthy, appropriate conversation with the man is if we’re the ones initiating it. Dedicated to survivors of rape and abuse Welcome to the Survivors Chat Community!
When you instate rules such as ‘men can’t initiate contact with women’, you’re putting natural, easygoing interactions to a grinding halt.For a long time, the standard idea that men have to approach women has held women back from making the first move, scared of looking ‘desperate’ or being too forward.Rules – whether they’re socially imposed or implemented by a bar – make basic human interaction feel stilted and complicated, when it should be easy. They get rid of meet-cute stories and people acting on a spark.We are a site dedicated to survivors of rape, incest and abuse whether sexual, physical, emotional, mental, psychological, verbal, RA or SRA.This is a place where survivors can come together to help each other, support each other, or just pass the time. The journey may be long and complicated, but you will reach its end. Individuals depicted in the images are models and used solely for illustrative purposes.
Clearly, men who profess the ‘we can’t even say HELLO to a woman without getting in trouble’ don’t see a difference between a polite, appropriate hello and a pressured, pushy perve-fest. They need to be shown that there’s a right way to approach women and a wrong way, and that the difference is essentially boils down to: ‘are you able to actually understand whether or not a woman is interested, and accept it when she’s not?