When something is so shocking and surprising – for good reasons or bad, then it can leave you feeling absolutely gobsmacked.
When something should be simple, but then ends up being overly complicated, it’s a bit of a faff.
Not something you spread on toast, this is a term from the South of England to describe someone very unattractive.
When you’re in the North of England, ‘Butters’ becomes ‘Minger,' also used to describe someone unattractive when it come to British slang.
The cues and triggers that may have tripped you up before remain the same but you go, “Ah. If you’re worrying about whether it’s going to go ‘wrong’, it’s time to come back to the present and be more ‘mindful’ because you’re spending too much time worrying about what isn’t happening or trying to anticipate what’s next and forecasting doom. If you haven’t been on a date yet or have only been on a date or few and you have a high level of anxiety, going on dates without being emotionally honest enough to recognise where these feelings originate is only going to compound it not relieve it.
I remember this from that class I took about fifty times, class” and then you consciously choose to do differently instead of doing the equivalent of repeatedly throwing yourself against one of those shatterproof doors. It doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to stop dating but it does mean listening to your thoughts and feelings.
In both cases, there are always awesome new British slang terms to pick up. And without websites like “Urban Dictionary” it would be hard to keep track of the fluid definitions.
For a small country there’s a whole lot of variation when it comes to language across the nation.
It’s natural to have some nerves in a new relationship, especially if like me, you’ve previously been jacked around while also jacking yourself around, but there’s anxiety that you sanity check with reality and then there’s anxiety due to evidence that you’re ignoring – how you feel, something about your needs, wishes and expectations not being met, or their actions or person, see if you can recall previous situations where you’ve felt or thought like this and what your anxiety in these situations was regarding. Now either say something nice or leave” and basically silence the hell out of it with evidence.
And often leads to day-long drinking, something the Brits do best.
When you’re really happy or proud of something, the perfect word in British slang to describe your emotions is chuffed.
When you’re upset about something, devastated, or heartbroken, then you are probably gutted.
This can be used to describe any and all feelings of sadness.
You do have to literally say to the spoiler, “Well hello old ‘friend’…. Try a Feelings Diary and monitor how you feel and what else is happening during these times for a week or so.